God's Design: Completing One Another

From the Pope:

8. Married love particularly reveals its true nature and nobility when we realize that it takes its origin from God, who "is love," (6) the Father "from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named." (7)

Marriage, then, is far from being the effect of chance or the result of the blind evolution of natural forces. It is in reality the wise and provident institution of God the Creator, whose purpose was to effect in man His loving design. As a consequence, husband and wife, through that mutual gift of themselves, which is specific and exclusive to them alone, develop that union of two persons in which they perfect one another, cooperating with God in the generation and rearing of new lives.

 Modern Translation:


Marriage love, of men and women are the results of this god designed system where they complete each others flaws. As children of god, we were given the responsibility to find a significant other to continue this lineage of procreation that which was passed on to us. This design that drives us to find a significant other results of a perfection, thus saying so about the design itself. In short, this design of mutual partnership is perfect.

The picture on the right-hand side is taken from Xenogears, a video game developed for the Sony Playstation. The plot was based after that of the bible including many references to names and people such as Abel, Isaac, and many more. This picture is a scene of two one winged angels with body figures representing a male and a female. In the game, it was discussed as man and women are not able to fly up to heaven with one wings. But if they were to join together, they  both will be able to fly up to heaven. Thus representing that of perfecting one another.

Where I Stand:

In the past, I would agree to this ideology of perfect design, one that was created to establish a marriage where one person completes the other. A saying that moved me back then goes somewhat as followed: it is not about being perfect, but accepting the other's flaws and making them perfect for you. However, as of now I am no longer near this Natural Law of finding a perfect other. The ideal is just to unreal, people are flawed. In this day of age, you rarely see a perfect couple, more particularly, a stable marriage.

The following linkhttp://www.unl.edu/rhames/courses/ppoint/divorce.pdf
leads off to a pdf file that of a collection of data taken from a research for marriage and divorce rates. The research was developed to induce the responsibility of marriage. As the title goes, marriage is listed as a reproductive contract. Though the deduction are of significance, the results from it plays more into this belief of perfect design for marriage. Accordingly, it was found that divorce rates are rather significant and are more common among young women than men. Furthermore, divorce is more likely if reproductive interest of one is not met.

In the research, reasoning behind divorces were taken. Some of which ranged from financial state of men and women, adultery, cruel behavior, and desertion as top 3 reasons of divorce to that of divorce rates. A man who is unstable tends to have less kids than that of a stable man. A man of low state is also more proned to being divorced by act of the woman and cases as not getting married at all. Divorce rates are also found to be high thus questioning that of the design.

Perfection for one another: Fantasy

 I believe that this ideology of Pope Paul VI developed from his ideal fantasy and strong belief and applying it to reality. As much as Robin fantasize being a blue people from Avatar, I can say similar to that of the ideals of Pope Paul VI. To say that it is from fantasy, not just the Pope, anyone would fantasize at one point of having the perfect marriage, the perfect wive/husband, the perfect life. It is human nature to do so. But in reality, such thing isn't true. Life consists of persistence, hard work, and many more other factors. For Pope Paul VI, he has higher authority than that of most people do. Much like how headmans of non-industrial societies are able to regulate villages, the Pope can do by similar means being able to socially construct people.

I won't say that it is bad not to seek a significant other that perfects oneself. I still believe in finding someone worthy although not perfect. But in response to say that it was designed, a Natural Law that depicts the behavior of marriage, that is complete utter bullshit. Even the data from the research proved it so with the high divorce rates.